“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does change
the future.” – Anonymous
When we are hurt, responding with forgiveness may naturally be hard to do, it can feel like we are letting people off the hook. However forgiveness isn’t about excusing people’s behaviour but forgiveness prevents their behaviour from destroying us. When we forgive there is less space for anger, hatred and hurt in our lives. It helps us to move on with our lives, breaks the cycle of revenge and can restore relationships. Forgiveness isn’t easy and can take time. It can help to talk with an adult you can trust to help you work through your feelings. Also if you are being hurt by someone it is vital that you seek help as forgiveness is not about allowing yourself to be hurt.
There are many reasons why people choose not to forgive or find forgiveness difficult. Hurtful experiences, painful memories, along with feelings of anger and resentment are naturally quite hard to let go of. One of the ways we can develop this skill, and discover the difference it makes, is to take time to apply it to our lives when we are hurt. Once practising forgiveness is part of your life you should begin to feel the benefits.